We personally find that being validated of our complex trauma, is the most important step towards the start of healing and recovery.
#1 — I felt traumatized. Is my traumatic experience valid?
Whether it was physical trauma/ abuse, sexual trauma/ abuse, verbal trauma/ abuse or psychological trauma/ abuse, trauma is trauma. All types of trauma are significant. According to what our psychologist said, she is not even sure if trauma can be categorized. A traumatic experience is subjective as well, for two different people experiencing the same incident, due to their different backgrounds, perceptions, personalities and so on, can have very different reactions. So, if you felt traumatized, then it was trauma. It means that what has happened to you should have never happened, because it was not okay.
#2 — I felt trivialized, when others grasp it the wrong way?
No matter how others view your trauma history, at the end of the day, it does not change the “fact” of the magnitude of trauma that you have been through. Both psychological trauma (invisible) and physical trauma (visible) have one thing in common; they come in scars and wounds, despite psychological trauma (i.e. physical/ sexual/ verbal/ psychological abuse) carries invisible injuries, it is still as significant as physical trauma (e.g. broken leg/ arm/ hand).
#3 — Can psychological trauma be measured or analyzed?
Trauma can be measured by the level of intensity (subjective), the frequency of trauma, the duration of trauma and the residues of trauma, however, the very nature of psychological trauma always create lasting imprints, due to how overwhelming and distressing it was. Hence, according to what our psychologist said, no trauma is ever mild, but intensive, at the very least. The more extensive the trauma, the more fragmented a person can be. When the trauma is more extreme, the individual can become poly-fragmented. When it becomes off-the-scale, a soul can become fractalline. Please note that when referring to the level of fragmentation, it could have multiple meanings. While the terms normally refer to dissociative identities, it can also refer to the unseen depths of trauma consequences and its damage done.